Friday, January 30, 2015

Homeschool Happenings: Week 25

This was the week of sickness at the King house. Starting Sunday, we’ve had at least one person who has been quite sick. Thankfully, the recoveries have been quick.

School was hit-and-miss depending on who was feeling well. PJ stepped in to teach one day this week, taking on the physics lesson among other things.

Vernon finished level 5 of All About Spelling! As always, we love this program!

All of us had gotten a little tired of jogging at the Y, so we’ve started using more Fitness Blender videos at home. There’s a good one for kids, which we really enjoy using when the weather is cold or wet!

We’re looking forward to next week, hopefully with much less sickness!

Linking up with Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers.

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Respite Care

I have mentioned the topic of respite care a few times before, but today I wanted to discuss it in detail and hopefully convince some of you to sign up!

When families are fostering children, they are only allowed to leave the children with approved babysitters who have filed appropriate paperwork with the supervising agency. If the foster family needs an overnight babysitter for any reason, the babysitting requirements are more significant. In Texas, overnight providers were required to be fingerprinted, submit a background check, and have current CPR certification. This is a lot of work for the average person! (Special thanks to our family and friends who did complete these requirements!)

Here’s where you can come in. If you are unable to foster and/or adopt—or if you just feel unprepared—you can still be a tremendous blessing to foster families by becoming a respite provider. This means that you will complete and maintain the certifications for being an overnight care provider and be open to caring for foster children for between 24 hours to two weeks (in Texas). This is hugely helpful to foster families who need a break or who may need to travel but are unable to take the child due to foster care regulations. It is also a wonderful way to “test the waters” of foster care if you are considering getting involved. While you may not be ready or able to take the long-term leap of fostering and adopting, it is very likely that you could make room for some extra kids for a few days at a time.

While fostering, we took advantage of respite care twice in seven months. One of those times gave us a break from the kids after we had gone to our agency and said, “we’re done; take the kids back.” Yeah. That’s the unglamorous side of adoption. We were extremely tired and overwhelmed. Our agency wisely suggested that we take a break to think and pray about the situation. They connected us with a lot of resources, including respite care that allowed us to get away for the weekend. Our second use of respite care allowed us a break, but it also provided the means for us to attend an all-day, mandatory training session that would have been difficult/impossible to attend without respite providers. We were incredibly thankful for respite care when we were still subject to foster regulations.

After adopting, we provided respite care for a single foster mom in our neighborhood, taking care of one or two of her kids at a time. It really was an easy thing to do for a day at a time. You can do it, I promise!

If you are interested in becoming a respite care provider, I would suggest that you locate an foster/adoption agency in your area and contact them about the requirements. If you need specific help getting started, please email me at, and I will do my best to connect you with a local agency to start the process. If you are in Texas, you might contact our foster/adoption agency, Covenant Kids.

Monday, January 26, 2015

Continuing the Conversation

This post is part of "Life on the Inside", which is a series that gives a glimpse into our adoptive family's daily life. Please read this series with a discerning attitude that is quick to listen and slow to speak.

Due to the sensitive nature of this series, comments have been disabled. However, you can always email me at

First, another blogger that understands. Such a good post. I had to read this in very small sections, allowing myself time to look away and blink back tears because I didn’t have time to fix my makeup.

Second, after publishing the first round of posts in this series, I realized that I had left out some important things.

  • As unexpectedly difficult as life is, PJ and I are 150,000% in support of adoption. In fact, our desire is that we are not yet at the end of our adoption journey. We hope to be a safety net for teenagers who are about to age out of foster care without a family. This, of course, will need to wait until our older kids are either stable or grown, but we are leaving ourselves open to stay in the adoption world. As we move to this next phase of life, we plan to be influencers and mobilizers within the church, laying out the need for adoptive families because…
  • As long as there are brave mamas choosing adoption instead of abortion, as long as there are are over 400,000 kids in foster care and 100,000 ready to be adopted, as long as our world is a mess and there are orphans in every country…Church, we must live in such a way that displays our Father’s heart for adoption.
  • While reading these posts might make you feel like screaming “no way!” to adoption, I want you to hear this: it is worth it. Yeah, it’s a sacrifice. A huge one. But because of the sacrifice that Jesus made on the cross, we are able to sacrifice in all the ways necessary to love and parent these kids. And you can, too.

Again, we are incredibly pro-adoption. I have written about the reality of our lives not to discourage, but to inform and aid understanding.

If you’d like to read the rest of the series, you can go to Life on the Inside. As always, thanks for reading and feel free to contact me with questions!