We’ve been doing the homeschool thing for two months now, and it has been…interesting. Also challenging, time consuming, wildly frustrating at times, and overwhelmingly beneficial for our family.
We did not enter into parenting intent on homeschooling. We considered it to be one of several options, depending on the particular needs of our kids and of the whole family. At this point in our lives, it is the best option because it provides Boy with the structure, attention, academics, and bonding opportunities that he needs.
Boy did not really attend kindergarten or first grade, which means he didn’t understand second grade. During the time that he attended public school while living with us, he struggled significantly with the academic work and was constantly in trouble at school, not to mention his emotional difficulties that prevented him (and us) from making it through the school day unscathed.
After a lengthy appeal process this summer, CPS granted a very rare exception that allows us to homeschool Boy before the adoption is finalized. Our motivation for this was two-fold: first, Boy needed significant academic intervention that a classroom teacher could not (and should not be expected to) provide. Second, we missed the first eight years of his life—very formative years. We have a lot of bad parenting to override, a lot of training to provide, and a lot of bonding to do.
Why does homeschooling work for our family?
- My awesome husband provides so well for our family, allowing me to stay at home to constantly nurture and train our kids.
- We get to be part of a fantastic co-op, which provides both social opportunities and instruction in the subjects that are harder to prepare and teach to one child.
- I get to adjust my kids’ education to fit their unique needs.
- Our kids get to learn how to thrive in a functional (ha!) family all day long. Because they spent the first years of their life in a very toxic family environment, it is crucial that they now get every opportunity to learn about living in an intact family—their time is limited to learn this concept.
- Putting forth the daily effort to homeschool helps the kids to trust us. When they see me make plans and follow through, they learn in small ways every day that they can trust as as their parents. Which is HUGE in our kids with their attachment/trust issues. (Parents haven’t always been trustworthy figures in their lives.)
- In attending school at home, we know our kids are exposed to the same set of expectations all day, every day. There isn’t “school behavior” and “home behavior”. They get to practice one way of doing things.
- We get to disciple them in the ways of the Lord all day. "Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” (Deuteronomy 6: 4-7)
We are thankful for the freedom to teach our children at home, especially before they are truly “ours”!
Up next…a “frequently asked questions” post about homeschooling. So leave your questions!!