Thanks to all of you who have asked how we’re doing. We’re doing…really well. I’m so thankful for this calm season in our lives after all the stress and craziness of the past seven months. The kids settled down almost immediately after the adoption, which has helped our day-to-day routine immensely.
- I don’t freak out when Emma bumps her forehead after jumping out of her high chair. She’s one! She’s going to have some bumps! Now it doesn’t result in a multi-county paperwork and phone call frenzy.
- No one comes to my house to privately question my kids about their opinion of my parenting.
- Goodbye therapy! After much internal debate, I realized that I could decide what’s best for my family…which definitely isn’t a weekly three hour trip with a toddler to let my kids run around being rude egomaniacs.
- We can now go to our Dallas psychiatrist four times per year instead of monthly!!! Again, anything to avoid a no-nap toddler, long car trips, and kids who turn rude and crazy in the presence of a mental health professional.
- My inbox fills up with messages from friends and family instead of demands for (more) paperwork.
- I’ve been able to read books to my kids, have friends over for dinner, wrap Christmas presents, and do many other things that didn’t make it into my crazy days before the adoption.
- I was able to support PJ working more than a week of 12-hour days and taking an overnight trip without going crazy. This would NOT have been possible before the adoption when the kids were almost unmanageable and I was a wreck by 5 pm.
- I stayed up all night with Brooklyn during a stomach bug and was less tired after two hours of sleep than I was every single day before the adoption.
The kids aren’t perfect. They’re still testing boundaries like crazy, but they are met with firm resistance that makes them uncomfortable enough to think before being disobedient and disrespectful. Our days are so much happier now that constant, drawn-out discipline is not the norm. We’ve had some really enjoyable times, and we’re loving celebrating Advent and focusing on our family.
Seriously, pictures are forthcoming along with a post about our first Advent season. Stick around!