First of all, THANK YOU for the many kind, encouraging words and prayers as well as offers of help. Your sweetness means more to us than you know.
We have been hearing two (legitimate) concerns that I would like to address.
First, regarding our marriage. It is absolutely rock-solid, all praise be to God. Throughout our adoption journey, though many days have been dark, PJ and I have not been at odds with each other. I am only willing to separate from him temporarily because we are doing well.
Second, regarding postpartum depression. The timing of my overwhelmed-ness is suspect, as I have an infant. However, I am completely confident, as are PJ, close friends and family, and my doctor that I am not dealing with PPD. As a nurse, I know the warning signs. One of my best friends struggles with very real depression—I know what it looks like. That is not what is going on, and I am thankful. PPD is no joke.
I am intentionally vague on the blog as I write about our children’s struggles because I want to write with integrity and protect their privacy. It is never my intention to “air their dirty laundry” for all the world to read. I walk a fine line as I seek to write with honesty while remembering that our family needs to be a safe place, both now and when my children read this someday. That said, the actual behaviors we are seeing from our children are overwhelming and out of line. We are far beyond normal childhood rebellion.
If you want more information, check out this post from June 2011. It links to a good article on the realities of older child adoption.
As always, thank you for loving our family!