If you had asked me ten years ago what I thought life would be like as I turned thirty, I would have presented you with this easy, rosy plan: work for a few years at a job I loved, have two kids eighteen months apart (while loving every minute of pregnancy!), and live happily ever after in suburbia and/or as a missionary (in a beautiful location with a beach, of course. And Starbucks.). Because what else is there for an OCD, risk-averse planner such as myself?
Enter a foster-care adoption of three kids and the truckload of trauma baggage that came along for the ride. Enter two awful pregnancies, one of which ended with a thirty-two week preemie, bringing us to five kids in five years. Enter two cross-country moves. Enter rejection after rejection for ministry jobs. Enter raging anxiety and depression.
Hello, thirty. You don't look anything like I expected. Now what?
Learning to love the life you didn't choose. When I read the subtitle of Melanie Dale's new book It's Not Fair, I was hooked. This has essentially been the theme of my life for the past few years. I was excited to read It's Not Fair, and it turned out to be even better than I expected.
Melanie has a thing for fuzzy blankets ("Fuzzy blankets are my favorite."), and this book reads like one big fuzzy blanket hug. Need to wallow and watch Netflix? There's a chapter for that. Angry about your messed up life? Melanie will meet you in the swear shed.
Hungry? See chapter nine, "Comfort Foods That Will Help You Eat Your Feelings." Not sure how to help someone? Melanie came up with 100(!) actually helpful things you can do. Are you just a hot mess? You'll find "I'm so sorry" and "me too" scattered throughout the book.
In addition to all those wonderful things, It's Not Fair is full of movie quotes, hilarious tweets, funny doodles, and anecdotes from Melanie's blog and reader submissions (mine's on page 87!). Melanie also weaves scripture and biblical encouragement throughout the book, grounding our unexpectedly messy lives in God's good and perfect will.
Yes, I am part of the launch team for this book and it is my "job" to be enthusiastic and flood social media with #itsnotfairbook, but I really did think this book is fantastic. Whether your life is a mess, or you love someone whose life is a mess, this book has it covered. With a fuzzy blanket.
And if you pre-order before August 16, head to the It's Not Fair website for details about how to get fun pre-order bonuses.
FTC Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book in exchange for a review.