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Making It As A Mom: Live Within Your Limits

There are so many needs and opportunities in front of moms at all times. How do we know when to say "yes" and when to say "no" or "not now"?

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This is a post for 31 Days about making it as a mom. Check out the intro post if this is your first time here!

I don't know about you, but something I often struggle with is feeling overwhelmed. Anyone else? There are so many needs and opportunities in front of moms at all times. How do we know when to say "yes" and when to say "no" or "not now"?

A mom a bit ahead of me often talks in terms of two concepts: season and capacity. Thinking through these ideas has been so helpful in prioritizing my "yes" answers and letting go of the rest.

Season: This term gets thrown around a lot in discussions about motherhood. The baby season. The potty-training season. The elementary school season. The "has my child lost his/her mind" season. Seasons change, and seasons end. Thinking in terms of seasons helps me to say "not right now" when really good opportunities are in front of me. When a part-time job opportunity arises, I can say, "now is not a good time" because of the season I'm in with a slew of little ones at home, but it may be a great fit in a later season. I would love to write more and maybe even get paid for it one day(!), but that is not my present season. Right now, I'm in the season of nap-time and Netflix-time writing, and that's right and good for right now. Seasons don't last forever, and we can rest in each one knowing that God designed it for our good.

Capacity: Oh, does this idea ever keep me from diving off the mommy-guilt platform. We can't do everything. We just can't. I can't be the room mom for my first grader and/or fifth-grader and be on the PTA board at the middle school and organize a teacher-appreciation lunch for the (wonderful) teachers at four different schools and craft beautiful parties and do anything for VBS other than drop my kids and run and...the list goes on forever. What I can do is mother trauma kids and love my husband and snuggle my babies and organize the living daylights out of our precariously balanced life. I can do what God has given me the capacity to do and no more. But do you know what the beautiful thing is? For everything I can't do, someone else can, and they can do it well because it is within their capacity to do so. Room moms and PTA moms and Pinterest moms and VBS volunteers (bless you all) can rock all those things that would be my own personal idea of torture. We're all in this together, and we can do all that needs to be done together.

This isn't to say that I don't sometimes dive into mommy-guilt when all the schools are emailing me with requests to help in so many ways. Season. Capacity. Deep breath. Delete.

So how about we give ourselves grace to work hard at what God has put in front of us and let the rest go?

What does it look like for you to live within your limits? I'd love to hear in the comments below or on Facebook!

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