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Making It As A Mom: Make New Friends and Keep the Old

Good friends are an amazing blessing. Can I get an amen? But sometimes it's hard as moms to find the time to maintain friendships or start new ones.

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This is a post for 31 Days about making it as a mom. Check out the intro post if this is your first time here!

Good friends are an amazing blessing. Can I get an amen? But sometimes it's hard as moms to find the time to maintain friendships or start new ones. Whether you're at home with little nappers, living in your car while driving big kids to activities, or simply not running into other moms as much as your kids get older, friendships can be tough!

Right now, I'm trying to do both phases of friendship: maintaining relationships and making new friends. We've moved multiple times over the last decade, and each time I have left behind people I thought I might not survive without. These ladies are my people. They're the ones we drive across the country to see (and vice versa!); they're the ones I immediately go to with big news and hard things; they're the ones I have inside jokes and long histories with. They're in Texas and Oklahoma and Georgia and North Carolina. They love my crazy tribe, and they love us well.

But last year, we moved back to Texas for the long haul, and it's time to make new friends. Y'all, this is hard! It's coming along slowly but surely, and I think this upcoming year will hold some good opportunities for turning acquaintances into friends.

One thing that's working for me right now is coffee and lunch dates that I host at my house. With an infant, still-napping preschooler, and half-time homeschooler, I need to hang around my house most of the time. Lately, some friends and I have been taking turns running through the Starbucks or Panera drive-through and bringing food back to my house. Timing around a nap or handing my iPad to a child can buy my an hour to relax and chat with a friend. I'm also hoping to host more playdates as some things settle down in the coming months.

I also joined a MOPS group and have come to look forward to our meetings as a time to connect with like-minded ladies about motherhood while taking a break from the kids. (And eating a yummy breakfast!)

As far as maintaining relationships: this might sound crazy, but life is busy and you have to do what works! I set reminders in my to-do list to text or email friends. Yep. It might be taking organization to an extreme, but my people matter to me and I don't want to let too much time go by without checking in.

Melanie Dale has written a wonderfully hilarious, practical book about making friends as a mom. Check out Women Are Scary for some great laughs and helpful tips about friendship.

How do you maintain friendships and make new ones? Is this easy or hard for you? I'd love to hear in the comments below or on Facebook!

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