Happy New Year! While I spend much of December thinking about plans and goals for the new year, the holidays seem to arrive with startling speed. Before I know it, we're back in the regular routine and the new year is off and running.
I've watched the "one word" posts come and go, and I'm finally getting around to mine. Better late than never, right?
My word for 2017 is RESTORE.
RESTORE our relationships. November brought so much change to our home as our oldest two children left for a residential treatment program. We spent the remainder of the year resting, recovering, and beginning to dig out from the immense baggage left by 5+ years of trauma parenting. At the same time that our kids left, we also changed churches. Hot mess of a time, I tell you.
In 2017, we're establishing our new family rhythms. I'm learning just how much our little kids had not been receiving the attention and nurturing that only comes through copious amounts of time spent on listening to their little thoughts and hearts. As we are no longer performing 24/7 trauma triage, we have three little ones who won't be little much longer and need us now. They are taking precedence over all my other projects, none of which will last forever like the little souls entrusted to my care.
Our marriage is also changing. Restoration is not needed so much; we've been blessed to have a rock-solid marriage through these difficult years. However, for the first time since the very beginning of our marriage, we are not living in a state of constant stress. Since eight months into marriage, our stress has aways been on the up-swing: nursing school, rotating shift work, infertility, adoption, trauma parenting, five kids in five years. Whew. Now it's time to just take some time to breathe and just rest in these calmer days, figuring out what marriage looks like when we're not constantly feeling the weight of outside circumstances.
RESTORE our house. Not Fixer-Upper style, unfortunately! Cleaning and purging and more cleaning is more like it. While we have daily routines and a monthly housecleaner to keep us out of the pit of filth, deep cleaning and dealing with all the stuff that constantly creeps into the house hasn't been a priority. It's time to turn our burp cloths into cleaning rags and get after it. I also need to sort and give away most of our baby stuff. (Last baby. All the feels.)
RESTORE our photos. My sister is getting married this summer. This event has prompted me to (hopefully!) take on a photo project of pruning 30+ years of print photos and digitizing the keepers. I have a fun writing project in mind that ties in with photo sorting. Check back with me October 1 to see if it becomes a reality!
We also have some big plans for later in the year that may or may not come to fruition. Regardless, I'm looking forward to a year of restoration and making the most of this first year of my 30s.